9 Ways to a Resilient Child

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Would you like to help your child learn the skills to help them bounce back from adversity and challenging times?

Perhaps you feel your child gives up too quickly and easily, moaning ‘I can’t’. Maybe your child resists going to school because he doesn’t like his teacher or his friend rejected him. Maybe she failed in a sporting contest or an exam.

One of the most frequent questions I am asked is ‘How can I help my child be more resilient?’

Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from adversity and adapt to difficulty in positive ways. Research shows that the resilience levels of our children have dropped significantly, putting many at risk. Friendship issues, bullying, physical changes, identity development and parenting styles are just some of the issues that can affect our children’s ability to bounce back. The critical time is before adolescence hardwires our children’s brains into changes that may lead to lifelong habits.

9 Ways to a Resilient Child will help parents to create the best possible environment to enable their children to cope with the challenges that life throws at all of us. Discover why winners aren’t always grinners, the problems with common advice like ‘Toughen up, princess’, the impact of helicopter parenting and why praise can harm instead of help. Understand both the risks and the protective factors that come into play. And learn the best ways to build your child’s ability to recover from difficulties, from the importance of instilling flexibility, autonomy and self-control to the vital roles of family, relationships, school and community.

I aim to bolster resilience – not just in our children, but also in ourselves. Because resilience doesn’t just matter for children; it matters for adults too.

Get 9 Ways to a Resilient Child now and help your family be a family that bounces back from adversity.


  1. Jamie Sharp

    As a family support worker I am glad I’ve been able to add ‘9 Ways to a Resilient Child’ to my collection of regularly used resources. This book and program has been so well written! I’ve found this book educational, simple enough to understand, but most importantly able to be applied having with an impact across the entire family unit.

  2. Barbara MacDonald

    I read this book over the course of a few days. It was full of insightful information that I could see being helpful in my parenting and in life general. I’ve since found myself quoting Dr Coulson many times over
    to my husband and to many other people. This book is engaging, funny and hopeful and I will definitely read it more than once.

  3. Elizabeth Hawthorne

    I read it in 2 weeks, highlighting and taking notes along the way. It was the first parenting book I’ve read that actually made me feel confident in some of the things I’ve already been doing as a mother, so that was reassuring! It also explained in detail some principals I already believed but didn’t understand entirely, which was really helpful. I especially liked the parts about praising our kids and also competition. Everything was well researched and clear to understand. I was also able to easily make connections with how to use the book to assist adults with resilience issues. I recommended it to all of my friends and family!

  4. Julia

    A fantastic book which has left me feeling equipped with some new tools and strategies to help my daughters, and myself, to become more resiliant

  5. Bruce Rossel

    Amongst the myriad of psychological self-help books, parenting guides and TED talks to illuminate the path for the ‘average parent’, Kidspot’s parenting expert, one Dr J Coulson, PhD rises above the crowd with clear cut through.

    Coulson starts off by discussion of 6 common ‘parenting myths’ which he debunks in turn, with his trademark mix of:

    * story telling (his own experience, someone famous, or someone he knows)
    * Sciency stuff (empirical research to back his PoV) and
    * calling out the main points – ‘take home messages’.

    This formula works. After I read some of the chapters, I would talk about it with my wife and I was surprised by:

    1. How much I remembered
    2. That we had discussions that probably went for longer than the particular chapters on given topic hahaha

    I particularly enjoyed the chapter on praise – feedback/praise on effort or performance, rather than outcome is a much better way to put air in someone’s tyres, according to the good Dr. Initially counter-intuitive, but on reading and consideration, it makes sense to me.

    After the mythbusting, Coulson then treats the reader to 9 chapters on how to positively build resilience in children.
    Things like knowing who you are, where your from (incredibly important to all children, especially Aboriginal kids, strength comes from knowing mob and culture), being flexible, and helping kids be age appropriately autonomous.

    The beauty of this stuff is that depending on context, has much broader applications than parenting one’s own offspring or step-offspring. I can see value in much of this in my relationships in the workplace.

    I look forward to sharing the love, by loaning my copy out to parents of princesses that need to harden up with a teaspoon of – resilience!

    My rating: 4.5/5
    (Dr J lost half a point for not putting me to sleep – I mainly read this book over the past couple of nights suffering bouts of insomnia 💤 – but it was too good to put down 😂)

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