Children & Discipline

Something Better than Punishment

Published: 11 Mar 2019
Something Better than Punishment

"A farmer was out the front of his farmhouse doing chores one morning when a big four-wheel drive pulled up in the driveway. A man in a uniform climbed out of the vehicle, walked up to the farmer and stated, 'I’m here to inspect your farm for illegally grown drugs.’

The farmer responded, 'Fine. But I’d recommend that whatever you do, do not go into that paddock over there.’ He pointed behind the man to a beautiful paddock.

The officer replied, ‘Mate, I don’t think you understand. I’m here to inspect your farm and I have the authority of the state government behind me.’ He reached into his pocket and and pulled out a badge. ‘Do you see this badge? It means I can go onto any land I want! Have I made myself clear?’ The farmer apologised and resumed his chores. The man walked away to begin his inspections.

A short while later the farmer hear a scream. He looked in the direction of the paddock he had pointed out as the one the officer should not enter. Sure enough, the officer was the one who had made the noise. He was racing across the paddock as fast as he could, a raging bull in hot pursuit - and gaining fast. Seeing the imminent danger the officer was in, the farmer stepped onto the fence that surrounded the paddock and called in a loud voice to the officer, ‘Your badge! Show him your badge!’"

I tell this parable in my book, 10 Things Every Parent Needs to Know in a chapter called “Something Better Than Discipline”. As parents, we do a lot of badge-showing. We sometimes think that just because we are the parents, we can do or say whatever we want and our children should follow our instructions. But often, our children are a little like that bull. They don’t want to be told what to do, and showing them our badge - our authority - makes zero difference.

Discipline is consistently the biggest issue that troubles most parents. Unfortunately, the majority of our standard discipline techniques leave us feeling lousy, our kids feeling awful, and... they really don't work.

Join me for this LIVE WEBINAR on Monday 18 March where I will share 9 Surefire Ways to Discipline Your Kids that actually work. No bull.


  • the core differences between punishment and discipline
  • why traditional discipline doesn't work
  • 9 discipline strategies including my Three E’s of Effective Discipline that will lead to better behaviour, better relationships, and happier families
  • how to never have to yell, threaten, ground, time-out, remove privileges, or smack again.


Monday 18 March, 8:00pm AEDT


Anyone who is raising, teaching, or working with children from toddlers through to teens


A 70-minute live webinar with Dr Justin Coulson followed by a 15-minute Q&A (plus you'll receive a recording of the webinar for future reference)


On your MAC or PC In the comfort of your home (…or wherever it suits you)


Because the simple fact is that as parents, we're struggling with how to discipline our children, and what most of us are doing isn't working. And because when I have a conversation with a dad who tells me that if his discipline isn't working, he just hits his kids harder, I know we need to find better solutions and fast.


$25 and 1 hr 30 minutes of your time

I promise this webinar will change the way you think about (and practice) discipline with your family forever. I hope you can join me.

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