We often think that to connect, we need to be in the moment and doing things together right now. And while that can be true, it’s not always true. Talking about the future can be inspiring and connecting too.
Hope and happiness researchers have discovered that we feel well (and connected to others) when we have goals that we can work towards together. So this connection challenge is going to be a real treat.
Take some time out today to talk with your daughter. The conversation should go like this:
“Imagine we were going to plan your perfect day. It’s a day out for the two of us. Just you and I.
“If we were going to hang out and do anything you wanted, what would it be?”
Your daughter might like to have breakfast at a favourite café (or a late brunch after a sleep in). She might suggest an early walk along the beach (or an evening walk along the river). She might have a movie she’s itching to see, or perhaps
the two of you could head off to the beauty spa for a treatment together.
Let her know that you feel like it’s been a while since you’ve had a special day, just the two of you. (Maybe your daughter’s other parent might like to come along too?)
Plan the day in detail. Select a date. Mark it on the calendar. And start counting down the days.
(For this one, you might want to work out a budget ahead of time to make sure you are satisfied with the costings, or perhaps you could tie it in with a birthday or other special occasion. What matters is not when, but that you plan it and work towards it soon.)